Great Sex During Your Pregnancy
Many of my pregnant patients ask me if it is safe to have sex during their pregnancy and at what point should they cease sexual activity. Good questions and here are some answers for you.
- YES! You can have all the sex you want during your pregnancy. Your baby (who is safe and protected by amniotic fluid, your uterus and the muscles surrounding your uterus) will be just fine given no other complications of placenta issues or preterm labor.
- Sex during pregnancy will not be the cause of a miscarriage. In general, miscarriages occur because the development of the fetus is abnormal. The mother’s body will know this and Mother Nature will take its course.
- Positions, positions and positions. There are multiple positions a couple can take during sex. As your body grows, find what is most comfortable for you. Have fun and experiment with new positions and play with different methods of mutual stimulation and arousal.
- Practice safe sex if you are not in a monogamous relationship or you have sex with a new partner during your pregnancy. STDs contracted during pregnancy can lead to very serious health risks for both you and your unborn child. If your partner has an active outbreak or has been recently diagnosed with an STD, avoid any oral, vaginal and anal sex. Protect yourself and your baby!
Signs When You Should Not Have Sex
You should check with your obstetrician is you have any of the following:
– you have cervical incompetence (your cervix opens prematurely)
– you are leaking amniotic fluid or you experience vaginal bleeding
– you have placenta previa (your placenta is covering your cervical opening)
– you have a past history of going into preterm labor or delivering prematurely
Many women do not feel pretty, sexy or just don’t feel well during a pregnancy. Hormonal changes can cause fatigue, breast tenderness, overstimulation of the pelvic floor and general discomfort. This is all normal and it’s OK if you’re simply just not in the mood. Discuss your trepidations and concerns with your partner and find what will work for you both. Remember, it takes two to tango! Sometimes, a loving caress, a couple’s massage or just kissing can be satisfying. Work it out together and remember, this is only a temporary situation.
This is a very special time for you and your partner. Take it all in stride and try to enjoy every minute of your pregnancy. You are creating another human being and not everyone has the capability of accomplishing this feat of nature. Common sense rules, so use it. If you have any questions, consult your healthcare practitioner and don’t be bashful or shy with your questions. Believe me, we’ve heard many stories and not much surprises us. The only stupid question is the one that isn’t asked. Many years past, I worked with Dr. Ruth Westheimer, whose parting greeting to the staff daily was ‘good sex everybody!’. So, I leave you with dear Ruth’s mantra – good sex, everybody!